How To Be Successful
Mel Robbins once said that "every one of us is one google search away from a list of instructions that if you follow any of them it will change your life" so I googled "how to be successful" and I actually came upon multiple articles with guidelines on success. What is success ? Depends who you ask. I see it as a toolbox of resources that once you tap into systematically - will lead you to live a fulfilled, happy life. Money will follow too, so don't worry about that part.
Here are my 20 suggestions based on over 20 books I've read (and google) by top producers/self made millionaires and billionaires. You're welcome.
1. Wake up early
If you've read my most recent post on daily activities that increased my productivity, then you'll know that waking up early will change your life. Everything happens before noon.
2. Treat others the same way you would like to be treated
Treat the concierge with the same respect as the CEO. This is a very crucial lesson to becoming successful. You don't know what a person did in the past, neither can you base it on their appearance. I learned this tip while working at a luxury car dealership - the guy in jeans and worn out running shoes has seven digits in his bank account and paid for his car in cash while the guy in a tailored three piece suit leased it.
3. Ask for what you want
Some people don't know how "easy" it is to get what you want from life - all you have to do is ASK. The world will not give you what you want, you need to ask for it. No one will believe in your project or design or brand but YOU. Drop your fear of rejection and claim the value you deserve.
4. Focus on others needs
Become selfless. Successful people have a huge market of connections they they use on a daily basis for different things. They leverage off others skills. Keep your clients happy by making their needs, your needs.
Think of it like this: the more you fail and keep trying, the closer you're getting to your end goal. Flip the coin to the other side. Of course don't repeat the same failure because that's the definition of being insane - but learn from it and move on. You're closer than you think.
6. Differentiate quickly between a bias opinion and a fact
Stop caring what people think because people don't think. Use science in this case: a hypothesis means nothing until it is proven and tested. Learn to block out peoples negativity and bias opinions. Let it go from one ear out the next. As a matter of fact don't even surround yourself with those people - they know nothing for thinking they know everything.
7. If the crowd goes right, go left.
As John Paul Dejoria self made billionaire once said "Successful people do the things unsuccessful people don't want to do". Take the path of least resistance. Go against traffic. Don't be a sheep.
8. Have integrity
Be honest and have strong moral principles. Here I will give an example from - John Paul Dejoria who Founded John Paul Mitchell Products - he refused to sell retail. His reason ? He wanted to offer hair salons priority of using his products and didn't want to sell out to big companies. He lost hundreds of millions of dollars to date because of this principle. Here is a man of integrity and strength - learn from him.
9. Always. Think. Positively
Be a YES wo/man. It starts with your mindset. Thoughts become things. If you keep telling yourself "I can't do this" then your brain will respond by saying - you're right you can't and it will block it. Instead, if you tell yourself "yes I can" - your brain will find ways to make it happen.
10. Look your best
Unfortunately we live in a materialistic society that "cares" about what car you drive, what designer label you wear and how you look. So act accordingly. When you're going to a meeting or interview - dress to impress. Clean up, shave, put on your best suit and tie. As they say, dress for the job you want not the job you have. CEO baby.
11. Body language shows you are interested
93% of communication is done non-verbally. Even if someone tells you "no" that could just mean "work harder". Don't take anything at face value.
12. Vocal skills are a must
I used to speak way too fast and justify it by saying that "I think too fast" but really I was just lazy. Having a good speech is integral to build relationships and having people actually listen when you talk. Speak slowly, use your body language, speak with your hands if you have to, do whatever it takes to get peoples attention. I recommend reading Dale Carnegie's "Public Speaking for Success".
13. Build empathy, naturally.
Having a high EQ is a necessary skill to master if you don't have it already. What it basically means is your level of compassionate towards others. Doctors tend to have a high EQ because they study and practice it a lot in medical school, but others have a hard time dealing with stressful or emotional situations. You need to learn to be comfortable around people who cry, who have felt pain, and even learn to feel it as your own. Become an empath.
People tend to speak to answer, not to listen to what the other person is saying. I have improved this skill over the years by doing interviews with others and having to record my conversations and go back to type them up. I noticed that there were times when I spoke too much, when I should've been listening more. Next time you're having a conversation, direct it to the other person and just listen to what they're saying - don't think about your to do list or picking up the kids from school, just listen.
15. Confidence is a skill, learn it.
People assume that confidence is a personality trait - but it is actually a trained skill. How do you develop confidence ? By getting rejected, A LOT. By loving yourself completely and not giving a f*ck what anyone else thinks about you. Get to work.
16. First impression is everything
Studies have shown that in the first 30 seconds of an interaction, the person has already made up their mind whether or not they like you. In that case, put your best face on, smile more and be agreeable.
17. Learn to adapt quickly to change
There are expiration dates on businesses, people and events in life. Don't hold on for dear life when you know deep in your gut it should be over. Your brain actually tricks you by making you believe that you should stay because you've invested so much time/money already. Learn to adapt to change and move quickly.
18. Leave your ego at the door
"There's not a single spot where [ego] lives, it's a network" Mel Robbins. I found this sentence very interesting when I first heard it. I always thought "ego" was a real engrained trait, but it turns out it's completely made up as a defence mechanism for us not to get hurt. Enough said, drop it.
19. Find a way to relate to others
Mirroring is a skill that most business people use organically. People are selfish - if you can be more like them it will make them like you more. Simple formula. Dale Carnegie said it first, I'm just repeating it.
20. Read. A LOT.
All leaders are readers. Bill Gates once said that if he could have any super power in the world, it would be to read faster.